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I was in the 5th month of finding out about my husband's addiction. I was also in the 3rd month of my husband leaving me abruptly. I was insecure, afraid, unsure of the future, angry, depressed, discouraged, and lost. I was so focused on him and his behavior. I was traumatized by finding out about his addiction and then further traumatized when he decided to leave after over 20 years of marriage. I needed support weekly and found it at Mid-Valley Fellowship.
During this time at Mid-Valley Fellowship, I have had difficulty understanding how my past works out in my present. I have also had difficulty realizing that healing is a long process and involves lots and lots and lots of letting your feelings out and experiencing them. I am still seeking to have my total identity in Christ and not let what my husband chooses to do affect me emotionally. I desire to grow stronger in the Lord and also learn boundaries.
I have learned that I am not responsible for my husband's addiction. I cannot change him. I need to focus on my own healing, as I have issues as well. I have learned what it means to have a group of people who are in the same situation that I can relate to. I can talk about everything I need to openly and safely. This environment and journaling on my own have supported my healing. I am now confident in who I am and my worth in Christ.
During this time at Mid-Valley Fellowship, I have had difficulty understanding how my past works out in my present. I have also had difficulty realizing that healing is a long process and involves lots and lots and lots of letting your feelings out and experiencing them. I am still seeking to have my total identity in Christ and not let what my husband chooses to do affect me emotionally. I desire to grow stronger in the Lord and also learn boundaries.
I have learned that I am not responsible for my husband's addiction. I cannot change him. I need to focus on my own healing, as I have issues as well. I have learned what it means to have a group of people who are in the same situation that I can relate to. I can talk about everything I need to openly and safely. This environment and journaling on my own have supported my healing. I am now confident in who I am and my worth in Christ.