Found out about his/her addiction?
I was insecure, afraid, unsure of the future, angry, depressed, discouraged, and lost. I was so focused on him and his behavior. I was traumatized by finding out about his addiction and then further traumatized when he decided to leave after over 20 years of marriage.
I am not responsible for his addiction
I have learned that I am not responsible for my husband's addiction. I cannot change him. I need to focus on my own healing, as I have issues as well. I have learned what it means to have a group of people who are in the same situation that I can relate to.